Saying No During the Holiday Season

Saying No During the Holiday Season

Holiday season is upon us. December can have lots of excitement, gatherings, and celebrations.  We may feel sucked into the hustle and bustle. We will try to be everywhere and do everything so that we squeeze all those visits in and no one is disappointed.

Is this realistic?

I want to give you the permission to say no. Your time and energy is important, valuable, and you get to decide how and where it is placed.

If you are having an inner battle about what decision is best for you, here are some strategies that you can try:

Do a gut check or feelings scan and really listen to what your body is telling you.  If you are exhausted and overwhelmed then this self awareness is important and should be honored.

Take time to answer.  As a society that is driven by cell phones and technology usage some of us may feel the need to provide an immediate response (I know I do …..).  Put the phone down in the evening and come back to the response in the morning with a fresh perspective.

Speak your truth in a clear and decisive way. There is absolutely nothing wrong with a kind and pleasant “no thank you.”  I encourage you to practice this short and sweet response.

Do not overexplain, defend, or debate your response. You have permission to make the decision that is best for you. Only you know what that is.  Own your emotional needs with love and self compassion.

Cheers to you!

 

Blog Post by Registered Social Worker, Nicole Wright